We accept all these ideas because we make agreements with ourselves and with the world. We create an inner judge, and that judge judges and punishes us constantly if we do not live up to our agreements. In this trial, we create the guilty victim and we are always punished. A passage from the book reads: “This is what he discovered: all that exists is a manifestation of one being that we call God. It`s all God. And he concluded that human perception is only the light that light can perceive. As for intransition, this word certainly has the connotation of perfectionism, and if we take it that way, we would indeed go crazy. (Besides, the impeccability and other agreements you make with yourself, not the requirements that Ruiz imposes on you.) On the other hand, if you engage perfectly with your word as your goal, if you commit to be as honest and kind as possible with your words, without waiting for perfection of yourself or to fight if you are too short, this agreement could improve your well-being with yourself. We have to break many old arrangements and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to really keep a space for someone who hurts us or who is angry without judging to withdraw, defend, accuse, intellectualize, share their dream. I read this and I fully understand the points he was trying to make. It is a little more sustained when you read the voice of knowledge.
We learn everything as we grow up, part of what we learn is not positive. Many of us had parents who were young or who had themselves been abused, and we learn their “faith habits” habits and patterns as we learn to count, talk, read, etc. Before the age of three, we do not know anger. We repeat the actions of our facilitators and our authority persons as children to obtain love, comfort and emotional support from them. We repeat their model because it makes them love and makes us grateful for their behavior. On the other hand, what we did could have been interpreted as “false” and we could be punished. Perhaps this punishment was severe or unfair and gave us an emotional memory of pain and fear. The repetition of similar anxieties makes this reaction a “behavioural pattern. As a child who wants love, you will make more effort not to upset this janitor and probably repeat the action that the enemy punishment has provoked to “fix” it. The result will be similar. These beliefs could begin as a fear when presented with emotional memories and repeated traumas, that fear eventually becomes anger, hostility, hatred, resentment, and that we learn to reactivate the proposition. Where did the love go? You can no longer learn these patterns.
You can see what caused the emotion, change the way you perceive it and get another emotional reaction result for future episodes. At some point, you perceive it and you repel the result. Perhaps you can even go back and forgive your parents, even if they were offensive, because they knew nothing else, because they had learned something as behaviors. It`s like changing the past when you can see everything and feel different. It may take a search for soul to find love in there, to heal oneself.